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Have I Already Peaked?

Do you ever feel like your best years are behind you?

I know at 31 years of age that might sound like a crazy thing to say, but sometimes I wonder if I’ve already achieved the most I’m ever going to.

Like, I’ve hit the peak and it’s pretty much all downhill from here.

And I don’t mean that in a good way.

What I mean is, do you ever get the feeling that you’re just not quite hitting the mark like you used to?

I mean, I remember when I used to be good at things. When I used to feel like I was regularly achieving awesome goals.

But it’s been a long time since I’ve felt like that.

I remember back in high school. I thought I did fairly OK. Managed to get through TEE (I know, I’m so old these days I studied the TEE back with the dinosaurs LOL!) and got accepted into Uni.

Achieved pretty good results there, got accepted into a post-grad course, worked bloody hard but made it through and wound up with an awesome job at the end of it.

I loved my job and was thrilled when my Uni contacted me to say my thesis had been published in an International Journal.

Awesome.

Around that time, I met the love of my life and we were fairly happy with what we called our “weekend and special occasions” relationship.

I progressed fairly well in my career and felt that I had been quite successful in landing a middle management position by the time I was in my mid-20’s.

Not too long after that, weekend and special occasions turned into “let’s get married and set our home up for a family.”

My life wasn’t exactly what I had pictured, it was actually about 1000 times more awesome than I could have ever imagined.

I could see it mapped out in front of me. My hubby and I with our happy little family, me at home with the kids and maybe working part-time if I felt like it…

…and then I don’t know what happened.

But things didn’t go as I expected.

My husband and I were pretty keen on starting up a small business together and having kids as well. We thought that we could spend some time setting up the business in the lead-up to our wedding and then I could continue to focus on the business part-time while we raised our 2.5 kids (that we thought we’d better get onto having since I was about to hit 30 just after we tied the knot).

It sounds so simple, right?

If you’ve ever tried to start up your own business, or have kids, you’re probably starting to laugh really hard right about now.

It turns out… both those things have been about a million times more challenging than we could have anticipated.

So, I left my job and we started up the business.

I don’t know what we thought would happen. It’s not as if I thought it would be some huge amazing success, but I also didn’t think it would be so bloody hard to get it off the ground either.

It’s meant I’ve had to work about 12 hours a day for the past 2 years straight and struggle to earn an income (you know those people who put up their website blog income reports in their first 3 months… and those crazy stories you hear of "over-night success" yeah well… that’s not how it works).

In between all that, I have worked a casual job to supplement my income too…

So, if you have any illusions about people who are self-employed or have set up their own businesses having spare time, just stop with your crazy day dream. It doesn’t work like that. Those people are me and my husband, and we work 24/7, and when we’re not working, we’re thinking about what we need to do to improve our business (seriously, it takes all my will power to put my phone in another room when my hubby and I finally get the chance to sit down on the couch together for 5 minutes at the end of the day).

*deep breath*

And then there was the kids issue. We thought people just had kids when they felt like it.

Apparently, that’s not how that works either.

We got pregnant quickly… and lost that pregnancy about 6 weeks after finding out about it… and then 3 months later… it happened again, and 3 months after that it happened again… and finally we found out that my hubby had a balanced translocation on two of his chromosomes which meant we would have a high risk of miscarriage with each pregnancy.

Eighteen months and 4 miscarriages later and we’re still childless…

And now I’m at the point where I almost do everything in my will power to avoid talking to strangers at functions.

Because, once upon a time, when people used to ask me what I do and if I have kids, I used to be able to say things like “Yes, I’m a manager at blah blah blah and my husband does blah blah blah and yes we’re planning to have kids soon, and we’re just a happy little bundle of joy”

But now when I get asked those questions, I almost don’t even want to answer them, because I get to say things like… “I started my own company… no I’m sure you haven’t ever heard of it… yes, I’m exhausted, no it isn’t fun, yes it’s hard work, yes I regularly ask myself what the hell I'm doing and whether I should give it up, NO I DON’T HAVE KIDS (and silently scream to myself "WHY DO YOU ASK THESE STUPID QUESTIONS!!??”)

I just don’t feel like I can say I’m awesome at anything anymore.

I’m just not ticking the boxes like I used to.

I used to be so confident that I could do anything I wanted, and now I’m just getting hit with challeneges wherever I turn.

It's like taking 10 steps forward and about 9 back every few days.

It's not that I never achieve anything... it's just that for every small step in the direction towards success, it feels like there some new challenge I could never have anticipated appearing out of thin air!

Some days, I feel like I'm up struggle street and there is no paddle to help push me through, and it leads me to ask the question…

“Have I already peaked?”

Am I that person that used to be good at stuff… that girl that peaked in her 20’s …and now I’m generally just failing at life.

*sigh*

People often say that Millennialls are a problem because they've been told as kids they "can do anything" and don't know how to take failure.

Well, I disagree with that. I honestly think the "I can do anything" mentality is the mantra that's kept me going.

I like to tell myself that I have been through difficult times before. I've gotten through it and I know I can do it again. Challenges are what motivates us to achieve bigger and better things.

So if you're like me, and some days you ask yourself whether you peaked in your 20's... don't worry. You didn't. Better things are coming. They always are. Things always get better. You can do this!

Are you like me? Do you ever doubt yourself and question whether all the best stuff is behind you? Did you feel like you peaked in your 20’s? Do you ever feel like things are 1000 times harder than they used to be? What do you tell yourself to help get you through?

Look forward to hearing your thoughts 🙂

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Don’t Talk to Me About Karma

Don't Talk to Me About Karma

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Don't Talk to Me About Karma

I want to have a little rant about something that annoys me…

I hear a lot of people talking about Karma these days. You hear people talking about bad things happening to other people they don’t like or are upset with, having a laugh about it and saying, “that’s Karma for you”.

I see meme’s every day on social media saying things like:

“Karma is only a bitch if you are”

“It’s called Karma and it’s pronounced HA HA FUCK YOU”

And in case those two aren’t bad enough, here’s my least favourite, the whole concept of:

“You will never understand the damage you did to someone until the same thing is done to you. That’s why I’m
here – Karma”

The basic premise of Karma is that if you do good things, good things happen to you and if bad things happen to you, you must have done something to deserve it.

And I think that’s a load of shit.

If I were to believe that, it would mean that Sam and I have done something so inconceivably unforgivable that we deserve to go through the challenges we have experienced these past couple of years.

If I think back on all the things I have ever done and all the decisions I have ever made, I cannot think of one thing that would have caused so much pain and torment to another being that would cause us to experience the same. It is not something you would ever wish on anyone, no matter what they might have said, thought or done.

I honestly think that sometimes, people just have bad luck and sometimes, people have good luck and it’s got nothing to do with how nice or horrible they are to others.

I feel like, when people talk about Karma, they talk about it as if it applies to other people and not to themselves.

Seriously, think about it.

What’s the worst thing that has ever happened to you?

Do you think you did something to make that happen? Was Karma paying you a visit, or were you just super-duper unlucky?

I think most people try to do the right thing most of the time (or at least justify their actions in some way or other) and if something bad does happen, it’s highly unlikely they did something to cause that awful thing to happen to them.

I do agree that you should be nice to others, do good deeds and generally pay it forward. But I don’t think that you should do those things because you’re expecting anything in return, or because you’re trying to avoid bad things happening to you.

I honestly believe that doing good things means good things will happen for you… I just don’t think it means that you are exempt from anything bad ever happening. 

So next time you feel like sharing one of those stupid Karma memes, just remember there are good people out there who are experiencing crap things who didn’t actually do anything to deserve it and telling them that they did deserve it achieves nothing other than making them feel worse (and whoever you are actually aiming your stupid meme at probably isn’t taking any notice of it anyway!)

Until next time… do these memes annoy you too? What’s your take on how Karma works?

Look forward to hearing your thoughts.

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Too Much Good Food and Wine

Too Much Good Food and Wine

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Too Much Good Food and Wine

You may recall last week I shared a post about our Duck and Pinot night at BWG Steakhouse and promised to share all the fun of the Good Food and Wine Show we had in Perth too…. But I feared that I had waffled on a bit too much and decided that the Good Food and Wine Show could wait for another post.

I hate to back down on my promises, so here goes…

The Food and Wine Show was 2 nights after the Duck & Pinot night, and I was honestly questioning whether I could do yet another night full of drinking and eating (my sister-in-law and I planned to visit the show in the afternoon and then go out for dinner after).

Probably just slightly over-ambitious for us both, but you know, we’re not afraid of a challenge, so we decided just to start off with the show and then see where the evening took us.

Once I saw what was on the list of exhibitors, I decided I could turn the event into a “non-pregnancy special”.

Meaning, I ate everything you’re “not supposed” to eat whilst pregnant (I try to do this as much as possible in those non-pregnant months) so I went all out with Champagne, Wine, Ice Cream Wine (yep, there is such a thing as ice cream with wine in it!), Fresh Oysters, Deli Meats, Soft Cheese and to top it all off I finished the non-pregnancy extravaganza with a lemon meringue tart.

So, that about sums up our afternoon, but let’s rewind back to how we found all these delicious goodies and where we got them from!

When we arrived, we thought it was best to take a look around before sampling anything and then circle back to see what we wanted to try. We had some specific things we were hoping to sample (with wine ice cream on our minds!) so we wanted to make sure we could find those as well.

But, a couple of steps in and my sister-in-law spotted The Worl'd Best Pizza by 400 Gradi and she was gone. I had sneakily had some pizza for lunch before we got to the show, so I declined and then kicked myself for eating before a Food and Wine Show (seriously, sometimes I just don’t know what I’m thinking, but when the hanger calls, the hanger calls and there is no need to tackle a massive crowd in a public place when you’re hangry.)

We found a little possie to sit down and while my sister-in-law was enjoying her pizza (just quietly I did sneak a piece after all, it was amazing by the way) I spotted the Cheese Alley and knew what I wanted to do next.

Cheese Alley

Once the pizza was done, we wandered over to Cheese Alley, only to see it was packed! We tried a tiny piece of ricotta and then decided the crowd was a bit too much for us, so decided to wander for a while and then circle back.

On our travels, we found the Wine Scream (Yes! Wine ice cream!) which was awesome (I don’t have a picture, because you know… I ate it before I even thought of snapping a shot) but it was definitely worth trying and one of the highlights of the afternoon!

After that we decided we had looked around enough and thought it might be worth finding somewhere to sit down for a glass of wine before attempting to tackle the crowd back down at cheese alley again (plus we were hopeful that the crowd would thin out closer to the end of the day!)

So, we headed over to the Champagne and Osyter Bar.

Champagne and Oyster Bar

There was a wait time of about 10 minutes in the line to get in, but once we were there it was all worth it. This was one of my favourite parts of the afternoon.

We were able to sit down with a glass of Taittinger, freshly sucked oysters and a plate of charcuterie (a yummy selection of meats, cheeses, turkish bread and hummus).

Too Much Good Food and Wine

It was a good opportunity to catch up and think about how we were going to tackle the cheese alley and plan the rest of our afternoon.

By the time we had finished our champagne and all our snacks, we decided we were quite full, so thought we would wander for a bit, suss out the status of the cheese alley and then see how we felt.

We stopped by the Rivendell / Cabernato stand and endured the wait to try one of our favourites… mojito wine. Yep, that’s a thing. The wait was definitely worth it. The mojito wine tasted just as good as we remembered, and we invested in two bottles to take home with us in preparation for our cocktails in the pool this summer.

Then, we decided to brace ourselves and head back over at cheese alley, where the crowd was still crankin’.

On our way over there, we spotted some delicious lemon meringue tarts that had taken our fancy. So, we thought rather than deal with that cheese loving crowd, we would much prefer a nice glass of wine and a tart for dessert to round out the afternoon.

So, we headed back over to Louis Boeglin Patisserie to grab our tarts and then very carefully carried them over to the Cape Mentelle Lounge so we could grab a seat and a couple of glasses of wine (SBS for my sister-in-law and Trinders Merlot for me).

Tarts

As we were finishing off our glasses we were surprised to hear an announcement overhead to say that the show was over!

So, there you go, a couple of hours filled in, in no time at the Good Food and Wine Show!

It was a great afternoon out sampling some really delicious food and wine, but the crowds were a bit full on! We were hoping by going later in the afternoon we might have the place to ourselves a bit, but we were so wrong.

I think everyone had the same idea as us! A lot of people looked like they were just getting started on their Saturday night and didn’t have any plans to move on any time soon.

I’m not sure I would visit the show again, but I think it is definitely worth visiting at least once to check out what’s on offer. If I did visit again, I might think about going earlier in the day on a Friday to try and beat some of that Saturday afternoon crowd!

After all that food and drink we decided we couldn’t possibly eat or drink anything else. It was a rather cold evening and the forecast looked like rain, so we both decided we’d much prefer to be at home on the couch in our trackies!

Until next time, I'd love to hear about food and wine festivals you've been to. Which is your favourite? Do the crowds get a bit much for you too or do you love to get in there and see the crowd buzzing?

Look forward to hearing your thoughts in the comments below!


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Non-Pregnant Girls Just Wanna Have…

Non-Pregnant Girls Just Wanna Have...

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Non-Pregnant Girls Just Wanna Have...

Food and wine of course!

(what did you think I was going to say??)

I know I tend to mainly talk about pregnancy and all related topics on this blog, and while I do feel like I spend half of my life pregnant these days, that’s not the only thing I’m all about.

When my pregnancy status is set to “not bearing womb fruit” we tend to spend a fair portion of our time travelling, eating and drinking.

So, I thought it might be worth sharing some of the fun stuff we get up to in those “non-pregnant” months (where I do seriously make the most of my non-pregnant status).

Over the past couple of months, we have been up to Broome (up North of Western Australia) and down to Margaret River (down south of Western Australia, in the wine region).

We have also gotten up to some fun stuff around our beautiful home town of Perth too, so to start with I’d really like to share our recent adventures which have included sampling Duck & Pinot at our favourite restaurant (BWG Steakhouse) and all the fun we had at the The Good Food and Wine Show last weekend.

So to kick us off, the Duck & Pinot story...

I may have already mentioned that BWG Steakhouse is our favourite restaurant. Sam and I are complete suckers for that place. At least once a fortnight we both turn to each other and go

“what would you like for dinner”

“steak”

“me too”

“should we try somewhere new or…”

“let’s go to BWG”

And then within 2 seconds I’m on the phone getting a reservation.

I’m not sure whether to be impressed or embarrassed that when I call and say “Hey, it’s Dominique” they seem to know who I am and what table I want to sit at…

This place seriously has some of the best service I have come across in Perth (if you’re from Perth you probably know our city it notorious for terrible service!) and the food is always spot on.

Their amazing steaks are the main reason we go there (plus, from time to time I like to order this sneaky “Spiced Mojito” …it’s not on the menu, but if you ask for it they’ll definitely make it for you 😉) but I digress, what I really wanted to let you know about was their Duck & Pinot night.

On our most recent visit for a steak, the Manager mentioned to us that they were holding a “Duck & Pinot” night and asked us if it would be the kind of thing we would be interested in. We were told that the general premise was 6 courses of duck all matched with delicious wines throughout the evening.

We thought it sounded like pretty good value, but as we had been on a couple of degustation’s already within the last month or so (at Wildflower in the city and Knee Deep in Margaret River… but those are stories for a different time) we weren’t sure if we really needed another night of eating and drinking.

But seriously, who were we kidding?? (It’s not about needing it’s about wanting when it comes to food and drink, right!?)

Somewhere along the way, Sam mentioned the Duck & Pinot night to our family and the next minute all 5 of us were planning to head down to BWG for the evening!

There was quite a lead-up to the night. My sister-in-law and I started it off by having this silly text-war over what we were wearing.

It started with her sending me a text (about 3 days prior to the evening… I can be useless answering messages sometimes) telling me that she had a new dress for the evening.

Prior to the evening (during the day on Thursday, the night we were going out) I text her back saying “me too!”, to which she (as only a loving sister can) proceeded to question whether I had in fact purchased my dress before she had, to which I assured her that I HAD in fact purchased my dress on Sunday, and of course, had decided WAY prior to that day, that I was wearing it that evening.

We declared #dresscompover and I suspected we were never going to speak of it again.

So anyway, I was in the Uber with Sam when my evening kicked off with this text:

Obviously, one can not just leave their bubbles to be lonely in such a manner, so I hurried along into the restaurant, only to find my sister-in-law beaming at me and then bursting out laughing as it dawned on both of us at the same time that we were wearing

The.

Same.

Dress!

HA!
 
To be wearing pretty much the same thing is funny, but when you’ve had a text-war about it only a few hours earlier it’s pretty freaking hilarious! An event like this obviously calls for a bathroom selfie…

Duck and Pinot Night

 Thank goodness we had both chosen different colours!

Anyway, for those of you who care more about food than our silly dress war, don’t worry I am actually going to talk about the food, which was amazing by the way…

Duck and Pinot Menu

Starting with Crepe’s and fried qual egg, I was surprised just how tasty this dish was. This is the first time I can remember eating qual egg and even though it was fried (I pretty much only eat my eggs poached or scrambled… fried yolk always tastes weird to me for some reason) I thought it was delicious!

Second course was the Duck liver parfait. I am a massive lover of Duck Liver Pate and this course didn’t disappoint.

The third course was actually my favourite over all. Pan friend gnocci with wild mushrooms, duck ragu and Manjimup truffle. The gnocci was amazing and even though I don’t like mushrooms, I barely even noticed them as the combination of all the flavours together was just perfect. If I could order this dish again I definitely would!

By the fourth course (which I think was technically 2 courses) I was getting pretty full. Both the duck leg and the duck breast were delicious (I didn’t even mind the brussel sprouts) and this dish was Sam’s favourite of the night. I was so full already that I just tasted a little and then handed the rest over to my father-in-law who seemed pretty happy to finish it off for me!

Lastly, we finished the evening with camembert soufflé… (in case you were wondering what the rest of that word was in the picture... I know, taking photos is not my strong suit)! I’ll admit it wasn’t my favourite dessert, but as you know I was really full by that stage, so I think I may have a different opinion of it under other circumstances.

All in all, an awesome night with great food, delicious wine and some of our favourite company 😉

Just quietly, I know I said I was going to share our Good Food and Wine Show experience, but... I fear I may have rambled on a little too much already, so I'll save that for another day 😉

Until next time, I would love to know, where is your favourite place to eat? Have you had an awesome wine paired meal lately that you would recommend? Are you like me and like to make the most of your "non-pregnant" status while you can?

Let us know in the comments below!

 


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Throughout the month of October, we will be sharing stories to raise awareness and reduce the stigma associated with these "taboo" topics.

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Kids on planes OK or NOT OK?

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Kids on Planes OK or NOT OK?

There was an interesting article on perthnow.com.au recently that considered arguments for and against children, mainly toddlers, traveling in business class.

I think the arguments for and against were relevant e.g. toddlers have tantrums, but drunk adults can be rowdy too, and most of the time passengers are settled back in their own private areas with their noise-canceling earphones on and wouldn’t have a clue what was going on with the rest of the passengers anyway.

So, this got us thinking about times we’ve been on flights where there were kids. The worst thing that I have ever experienced is a kid kicking the back of my seat repeatedly. I turned around, asked them to stop, and that was the end of it (by the way, I have sat near adults WAY more annoying than that). I have also been on a flight where a baby wouldn’t stop crying. Put my earphones on… no problem.

We were both actually really surprised on a recent flight from Melbourne to the Whitsundays. There was a family traveling across a couple of rows in front of us who had 2 children. The children were awesome through the whole trip, and when we got off the place, I said to Sam “how good were those kids on the plane?” to which he replied “…what kids?”. We could barely even tell they were there.

But THEN, we had that same family on our return flight back to Melbourne. I couldn’t believe it, that trip there was a dropped tray, a broken glass and vomit on the floor!

Sounds awful, right?? The funny things is… none of the kids were responsible for any of those incidents!

The tray and broken glass were compliments of the staff and the vomit incident happened when someone stood up with a baby, not realising it was about to vomit, and just didn’t catch it in time.

The thing I found even crazier was when the Dad got up at the end of the flight and apologised to us for having to travel both trips with his kids! Amazing, considering we thought they were awesome and barely even noticed them.

What I find even funnier was that there were actually 3 kids… I just didn’t notice the third one until the end of the return flight!

Based on these experiences, (I can say I’ve been on worse flights which have nothing to do with kids), I’ve decided that I am definitely OK with kids being on flights. Sam, on the other hand, thinks that it depends on the child. Some fly well, and some don’t. His personal opinion is that if they don’t fly well, don’t take them on a plane (we’ll see if he changes his tunes when we have our own kids, hey!?)

Personally, I have never experienced a flight where kids were rowdy or behaving in a socially undesirable manner in business class, and quite honestly, I am one of those people who keeps their noise cancelling headphones on the whole time (even when I’m sleeping), so chances of me hearing anyone (child or adult) have a tantrum are slim-to-none.

I was also thinking though if this is such a problem, why don’t airlines just split business class into two sections… one that has families with kids, and one that is “adults only”?

Easy fixed!

What are your thoughts?

Would you take your child on a plane?

If you were a passenger of a business class flight, would you have a problem with kids being there?

Have you taken your child on a flight? How did you find it? I hope you didn’t feel the need to apologise to anyone the way this Dad did!

Let us know your thoughts 🙂

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