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Intrinsic Motivation

Chores

Help your child develop internal motivation for completing chores (meaning, they help out because they want to help out, not because they HAVE to, i.e. they enjoy “being helpful”).
 
In order to achieve this, help your child understand how they are contributing to the family by completing their chores. For example, use phrases like:

"When you set the table, you are helping to get dinner ready so the whole family can enjoy a meal together"

This approach can help children feel valued for completing household chores, and over time they become more inclined to want to do chores, because they enjoy the personal satisfaction of feeling like they have been helpful.

References:
Slavin, R. (2005). Educational Psychology: Theory and Practice 8th Edition. Boston: Pearson Education Inc. 

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Kristin Cook

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November 28, 2016

The little girl I nanny is like that. She loves to clean and wants to help me if I am cleaning!
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Kristin Cook

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That is so gorgeous Kristin!

Kim

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November 28, 2016

This works with one of my boys. The younger one. The pre tween well, not so much. If I catch him on a good day then yes, this would work too. lol
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Glad to hear it works for one of your boys Kim – it’s really interesting how some strategies will work for some children but a completely different approach is needed for others!