Alternatives to Punishment

Rather than trying to change a heap of behaviours at once, identify the behaviour that is most important to you, and concentrate on that particular behaviour first.  
 
For example, if you want to see your child packing all toys away at the end of the day, then focus on that first. Be prepared to ignore the neatness, timeliness etc. of the packing until the “all toys packed away” chore is mastered.

Another example might be that you want your child to unpack their school bag and give you any notes from school at the end of each day. Let’s say, in this case, getting the notes is most important.

Work with your child to make sure they hand you any notes as soon as they put down their bag when they get home. Once this becomes a habit (e.g. your child gives you the notes every day for a week without missing any), then move on to helping them form the habit of unpacking their bag. Handing the notes just becomes part of that process. 

Targeting one behaviour at a time can make it a lot more likely that you will actually see a change in behaviour. Once each behaviour is mastered, you can move onto the next one.