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The 7-Year Itch
The 7-Year Itch
We have decided to celebrate our seventh anniversary by spending it with other people.
Sam has chosen my Mum and I have chosen his sister.
We know it’s a little unconventional, but we feel we have reached the point in our relationship where situations such as this have come about as a natural progression.
So how did we reach this point…?
7 years ago, on the first of July, Sam and I went on our first date. If memory serves me correctly he was about an hour late (he was clearly excited about the date) and I waited for him at the Claremont Hotel (yes, the safest place in Perth a female can wait for someone on their own…)
When he finally arrived, we decided to head down the street for a pizza and a beer. We shared the meal and then decided we were both up for a nightcap, so headed back over to the Claremont Hotel for a drink.
After that first date, we started seeing each other fairly regularly, and became what Sam used to jokingly call “weekends and special occasions”.
A few years later, when we went round to his friends’ house for a BBQ on a “week night” I think everyone knew it was getting serious 😉
Eventually we moved in together and then a few years after that we were married.
Earlier this year (about a year into our marriage) we started seeing ads on TV for the “7 year itch” and I had been joking with Sam that since we were on the brink of hitting that 7 year mark we would know all too soon what this “7 year itch” was all about.
So, fast forward to June and Sam starts talking about going up to visit my parents for a week to help build this wall at the front of the house. I’m taking a general interest in the project, but not paying all that much attention to the specifics such as dates or times, but I’m assuming I’ll go along with him (it is my family’s farm he’s visiting after all).
In the interim though, his sister and I have been planning a much-needed girls night, since we’ve really missed out on those out over the past year, so we get together and schedule a date for a night out that suits us both.
A few weeks later, Sam and I are discussing plans to head up to the farm. Sam wants to go on the 30th and I have a quick look at my calendar and notice I’ve got an appointment that afternoon and a girl’s night out scheduled on the 1st… when it hits me.
We’ve both made arrangements for the night of our “anniversary” and neither of us has noticed…
So that, I believe, is what they call the “7 Year Itch” …spending your anniversary with other people (whether you intended to or not!)
How about you? Do you go out of your way to celebrate anniversaries? Or are you like us and forget they are coming up and schedule time in to hang out with your in-laws instead?
Look forward to hearing your thoughts and experiences 😉
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24 Replies to “The 7-Year Itch”
Happy Anniversary to you ! Wish next celebration you will come to Bali island .
For our anniversary so far we never forget to celebrate. Just hanging out for dinner , or listening life music by the beach during the sunset . We are lucky enough to live near Seminyak beach , Bali island .
An excellent way to celebrate.. Will try to do that way..
It happens to the best of us. Haha. We don’t go out of our way to have crazy celebrations, however we do try to have a night for ourselves. We don’t get much time alone, so a night away or a weekend getaway is perfect for us! No fancy gifts, nothing like that. It’s just not our style.
Happy Anniversary! I think it’s nice to celebrate anniversaries and milestones when you can, but I also think it’s nice when it’s not really needed, you know? I hope you both have a good time.
Happy Anniversary and amazing that you guys have been together for so many years. I think that it is a nice idea to spend time with others even on your anniversary because in a way it shows how solid and committed you both are right? x
Happy anniversary! I don’t think there is anything wrong spending it with other people! We’ve done that kind of thing before too. Heck, we took our son on our ten year anniversary trip!
Happy anniversary !! Depends the year but we always casually celebrate our anniversaries ?
that’s hilarious! yall rock. :]
Awwww, happy anniversary to you both <3 I think it's a lovely way to celebrate (also loved getting to know a bit more about your first date together… despite the fact that he was running a bit fashionably late, it sounds like a very nice first evening together). 🙂
Happy anniversary! Anniversary comes once a year and we all have this idea what it should look like, but often it doesn’t turn out like that 🙂 all that it is important is love and respect that you have for each other
Happy Anniversary! My husband and I celebrated 8 years of marriage a few weeks ago. We went to dinner as a family. My preschooler was adamant that she pick the location. Much to her dismay, I explained it was our anniversary, so we would be choosing.
My husband and I just celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary and we’ve been together 15 years. We stopped celebrating our dating anniversary once we got married and honestly I always forget when it even is. I only know it’s in January. LOL.
The 7 year itch. To me when people’s thinking swaps from “any person will do to you are my soul mate and despite the difficulties Noone else will do.”.
Your parents set the standard for me with thier love song “if you leave me can I come too”
We now have our song “pina colada song” we just need to keep reinventing our selves.
Happy annivesary and don’t be to hard on yourselves. There is still first kiss ,engagement and wedding celibrations to come.!
We have anniversaries like the day we met, the day we MET (we met online, so we have two meeting days), the day we became official, the day we got engaged, and the day we got married. And while sometimes we’ll remember the smaller anniversaries, we only really celebrate the marriage one.
Our anniversary’s come and go. I wish that they were more of a thing for us but they aren’t. Maybe I will have to try a little harder.
PS. I carried my baby for almost 5 months when my water broke and I lost him. People don’t know how to react when that happens. I lost a piece of my soul. I struggle everyday with it.
I’ve never heard that term before! Right now, we’re celebrating our one-year and with my husband in medical school, I am selfish and want him all to myself! Hahah 🙂
I loved reading your love story and thank goodness you were patient that night when he was late! My boyfriend and I don’t celebrate our anniversaries. We always forget about them and remember like a week later lol but honestly it’s okay because he makes me feel really special every day and every time we go out on a date it feels like a celebration.
Never heard of the 7 year itch, but I enjoyed reading your story. Even though you both forgot, it makes for a cute story and good read. Thanks for sharing and Happy Anniversary!
Great story!! Your commitment to each other is celebrated everyday in tiny ways….missing the actual date of the anniversary is not important in my mind…just as well coz we both forget all but our Wedding anniversary – which is New Years Eve on purpose so I could never forget!!!
What a lovely story of how you met. I don’t celebrate anniversaries. I can’t even remember when I met my partner.
Happy anniversary guys! This was such a lovely post and I enjoyed reading about the two of you. The 7 year itch is something I wouldn’t know about. My first marriage ended after 5 years and my second marriage is going strong at 5 years. Fingers crossed!
What an unusual way to celebrate your anniversary. We usually do dinner out but that s about all.
Awe my parents are the same haha! In the end they do schedule time to spend with our in-laws 🙂
Congratulations guys!!
This is such a lovely post! I like that you’re comfortable enough to spend time apart!