The 7-Year Itch

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The 7-Year Itch

We have decided to celebrate our seventh anniversary by spending it with other people.

Sam has chosen my Mum and I have chosen his sister.

We know it’s a little unconventional, but we feel we have reached the point in our relationship where situations such as this have come about as a natural progression.

So how did we reach this point…?

7 years ago, on the first of July, Sam and I went on our first date. If memory serves me correctly he was about an hour late (he was clearly excited about the date) and I waited for him at the Claremont Hotel (yes, the safest place in Perth a female can wait for someone on their own…)

When he finally arrived, we decided to head down the street for a pizza and a beer. We shared the meal and then decided we were both up for a nightcap, so headed back over to the Claremont Hotel for a drink.

After that first date, we started seeing each other fairly regularly, and became what Sam used to jokingly call “weekends and special occasions”.

A few years later, when we went round to his friends’ house for a BBQ on a “week night” I think everyone knew it was getting serious 😉

Eventually we moved in together and then a few years after that we were married.

Earlier this year (about a year into our marriage) we started seeing ads on TV for the “7 year itch” and I had been joking with Sam that since we were on the brink of hitting that 7 year mark we would know all too soon what this "7 year itch" was all about.

So, fast forward to June and Sam starts talking about going up to visit my parents for a week to help build this wall at the front of the house. I’m taking a general interest in the project, but not paying all that much attention to the specifics such as dates or times, but I’m assuming I’ll go along with him (it is my family’s farm he’s visiting after all).

In the interim though, his sister and I have been planning a much-needed girls night, since we've really missed out on those out over the past year, so we get together and schedule a date for a night out that suits us both.

A few weeks later, Sam and I are discussing plans to head up to the farm. Sam wants to go on the 30th and I have a quick look at my calendar and notice I’ve got an appointment that afternoon and a girl’s night out scheduled on the 1st… when it hits me.

We’ve both made arrangements for the night of our “anniversary” and neither of us has noticed…

So that, I believe, is what they call the “7 Year Itch” …spending your anniversary with other people (whether you intended to or not!)

How about you? Do you go out of your way to celebrate anniversaries? Or are you like us and forget they are coming up and schedule time in to hang out with your in-laws instead?

Look forward to hearing your thoughts and experiences 😉
 


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Why Do I Have to Do Everything Around Here?

Why Do I Have to do Everything Around Here?

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Why Do I Have to do Everything Around Here?

Sam and I take a fairly “traditional” approach when it comes to who does what around the house.

We’re not sure why this is or how it comes about. It could be that it’s the way our parents did things, so we just automatically fill those traditional roles as part of our natural course.

For example, I do (most of) the cooking, cleaning and washing. Sam mows the lawns, fixes things around the house, maintains the pool, chops the wood and builds anything that needs to be put together (no, we don’t try to assemble flat-packs together, everyone knows how that ends!)

Sometimes, Sam cooks and I maintain the pool.

Sam also has a tendency to leave stuff around the house, and I have a tendency to just pick it up, put it away (or as he says, “hide it from him”) and move on.

I know some people would have a problem with that. I also know that every female I’ve ever met has a man in their life who they pick up after.

Some of us whinge about it, and others just accept it for what it is.

I can’t remember who said it to me, but it’s one of the best pieces of advice I’ve heard, and I often share it with my girlfriends

"The sooner you accept that you have to pick up their stuff, the easier your life will be."

You can disagree with me and say it’s sexist and all of that stuff, and that’s fine (I wouldn’t disagree with you!) but once I heard that statement I asked myself “would you rather squabble about something that isn’t going to change or just accept it and move on?”

In saying all of this, Sam and I don’t actually think that the male and female should automatically assume traditional roles within the household. Ultimately, we think it doesn’t really matter who does what around the house so long as there is an equal distribution of tasks (e.g. if one person works more than the other, the other person picks up more of the slack around the house) and we really think that’s the way it should be.

In an ideal world, we believe it should all be evenly shared (and that's what we'd really like to try to teach our kids one day when they come along...)

But the thing is, we don’t live in an ideal world, and all the stuff isn’t evenly shared (how apparent was that when you had to answer the census question about how many hours you each spent doing non-paid work around the house!?).

Although, since no-ones keeping score (except the ABS, apparently!) it doesn’t really matter - and we’re ok with that.

How about you?
Do you share the workload evenly in your house?
Do you automatically fall into the “traditional” male and female roles around the house?
Does picking up your partner’s stuff drive you nuts?
What happens if things aren’t done in your house?

Let us know in the comments below 🙂

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