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Good News and Bad News
Good News and Bad News
We had our miscarriage follow-up appointment last week and were met with good and bad news…
The good news is that the embryo testing indicated that there was an unbalanced translocation on chromosome 1 again (ie it had an extra piece of chromosome 21 on it) which resulted in the miscarriage (if you’re wondering why that’s good news, it’s because no new problems were found, which means we feel a little more confident that this is what is causing the miscarriages… and we’re happy there isn’t a new problem).
The bad news… we’re just so freaking unlucky to have hit that chromosome combo 3 times in a row.
Our OB suggested we head to Kalgoorlie and play some two-up…
Which, was kind of funny, because Sam was actually about to head to Kalgoorlie, and I had been joking with a couple of people about wanting to just stand there and flip 2 coins over and over again for a while just to see exactly how hard it is to get one particular combo 3 times in a row.
So… it’s back to square 1 for us again now.
We had the “should we do IVF” conversation again and decided we’ll just try our luck for a bit longer…
I am conscious of my age (31 and counting already, yikes!) and I was a bit worried about the aging of my eggs.
I asked my OB whether it would be worth freezing some just in case we decide do to IVF down the track (my thought was that I wanted them to be as “young” as possible in that scenario in order to avoid other future potential problems associated with aging eggs), but we were basically advised that the cost of retrieval and freezing is about the same as IVF, so probably best to just do IVF if we’re thinking along those lines.
I did wonder “but what if I get to 38 or so and decide then than I want to do IVF and realise I could have had my younger, healthier eggs in holding all along…” to which my OB just gave me a reality check saying he didn’t think I would be likely to go that long without making the decision to go down the IVF path… fair call I say!
So, I guess we will just wait and see what happens.
Fortunately for us, the “getting pregnant” part of things seems to happen fairly quickly, so I’m hopeful we might have some luck in the near future.
Until then I’ll be semi-hoping for a pregnancy and semi-not-hoping for one all at the same time, as I know what it’s like to go through the happy/sad/anxious/stressed/whatwasithinking cycle associated with recurrent miscarriage over and over again.
But, I guess you win some you lose some. If you don’t try, you can’t succeed, right? So, I’ll just try to hold on to that little mantra for now.
Until next time…
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23 Replies to “Good News and Bad News”
So sorry to hear about this. Praying for God’s timing for your sweet family!
Sending you thoughts of peace and comfort!
I’m glad you got answers, but I’m sorry it’s back to kind of a waiting game – I hope you get pregnant again soon and that this time it sticks. Much love and hugs to you!
Well, I’m glad there are no new problems for you to worry about but my heart breaks that this can’t be an easier process for you. Praying for some positive progress in your journey to making a family! <3
I’m glad you got your answers, and it is not another problem, but I’m so sorry you’ve had to go thru it so many times…or any times at all. Thank you so much for sharing your journey, as I know it will help so many women.
Oh hun, I’m so very sorry to hear this 🙁 it breaks my heart that you are dealing with this and I just wish much peace and comfort and answers ahead <3
sending you big hugs and keeping you in my prayers.
I wish I could do more than just send prayers and healthy pregnancy vibes. But for now, you got them all!
I am so sorry you are having to go through all of this. Prayers for you all!
I hope everything goes well so that you won’t have to go through the IVF. I admire you for your strength and determination. Always be positive!
I’m sorry to hear you are going through this but it’s good that there are some good news also. I hope the doctor is right and soon enough you will get pregnant again and be able to have a healthy beautiful child.
Aw :/ I am really sorry to hear about your miscarriage that must be difficult, but I thank you for being open and honest about your story. Your post would have been great comfort for my friend who lost her child a few years ago, so she knew that she was not in it alone x
So sorry to hear the bad news, although there is some comfort as it, as you say. I’m keeping my fingers crossed, I’m sure it will end up fine next time!
I am really sorry to hear that. I am 31 as well so you made me think. Hope everything turns out well for you.
Wish that something good will happen to you at Kalgoorlie and stays good after. Stay positive and motivated! Wish you luck!
I’m so sorry about your miscarriages. I kept thinking how amazing technology is today that they’re able to to narrow it down to chromosomes and say “this is what’s happening” I wish for this next time to finally be the one.
I’m sorry for your loss!! Yes that’s the bad news..3 times in a row. Hope doctor is correct.
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. It’s not an easy thing to go through. I really do hope you have some luck the next time xxx
Sending prayers and condolences to you.
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that you do get pregnant again amd that the pregnancy will be easy on you. Praying for you.
I am truly sorry for your losses. I know it’s not the same, but I grew up seeing what losses do to families. Stay strong, ask for help. Hoping next time lucky whenever you try again. Love to you from Scotland. xox
I’m terribly sorry for your loss..but as you say, there was still good news. Good news and bad news is better than bad news and bad news…I really hope you guys have better luck next time!
My heartfelt sympathies for your loss. I am impressed by your determination and pray that you will have your wish come true…. hugs and love!